What to say and what not to say to students

In response to the BBC article on what not to say to exam stressed teens, here’s a few personal and unresearched notes on what might work. Any further ideas gratefully received!
Want a cuppa? Support is what is needed. Not targets, or rewards (they don’t work), not incentives. Something small and kind, something personal and human and has no agenda and is all about the moment.
Your exams are a stepping stone. A university lecturer got me through my finals with this. This current exam is not the be all and end all. It is not a final comment on the student as a person. It’s a practical step to the next level; important and yet not so important.
Want to go for a walk? When a friend commented a while back that they seemed to get much more information out of their child when driving somewhere or walking the dog, we realised that being side by side is much less threatening and much more conducive to good conversation for teens than the classic meeting across the kitchen table.
In fact, don’t talk or ask: listen! Listen to anything and everything they have to say. And when you’ve listened, listen some more.
I wrote this not as instruction but as a reminder to myself! Oh and I wrote it quickly. Please comment back or add to the discussion as any ideas would make a great handout to parents. Thanks!

About @moodybill

Trainee everything but practising teaching, photography, writing and drumming the hardest!
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